Why Women Compete — How To Choose Connection Instead

By Joyce Erickson, BetterYou.coach

Why Do So Many Women Feel Like They’re in Constant Competition?

In today’s world, it’s easy to feel like you’re always being measured — by your success, your looks, your relationships, or even how you parent. The culture we live in often says: “To win, someone else has to lose.”

As women, we’ve internalized that message in subtle — and sometimes not-so-subtle — ways.

• Taking credit to get ahead.
• Shrinking someone else’s light to feel secure in our own.
• Belittling or blaming instead of owning our part.

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.
I’ve seen it. I’ve experienced it.
And maybe you have, too.

But here’s what I’ve also learned — it doesn’t have to be this way.

The Hidden Cost of Competing With Each Other

I’ve had my work used without credit. I’ve spoken up and been ignored — or worse, laughed at. I’ve watched others pass blame to protect their image.

Each time, it left me wondering:

• Is this just how women treat each other?
• Is there even room for me to be seen and valued without playing games?

The emotional toll isn’t just disappointment. It’s disconnection.
When trust is rare, collaboration becomes a risk — and too many of us stop trying.

But something deeper is lost when we buy into this kind of culture:

• The safety of being fully yourself.
• The joy of supporting — and being supported.
• The relief of finally not doing it all alone.

What If We Stopped Competing — and Started Healing?

What if the real power move wasn’t to stand out, but to stand together?

What if success wasn’t about being the best in the room, but about being the most helpful?

And what if, in our coaching, friendships, and leadership, we asked:

“What’s actually best for the person in front of me?”

That shift changes everything.

Because sometimes, you’re not the right person to help — and that’s okay.
It doesn’t make you less valuable.
It makes you conscious.
It makes you client-centered.
It makes you real.

Inside Our Coaching Network: Collaboration Over Competition

At BetterYou.coach, we’ve built something different — a coaching network grounded in connection, not competition.

Each of us brings our unique magic:

• Shelley holds space for deep healing and trauma recovery.
• Doris creates clarity through structure and calm.
• Tiffany helps rewrite inner stories through hypnotherapy and coaching.
• Sarah guides women through life transitions with steady wisdom.
• And I help people come home to presence, joy, and the moment they’re in.

We don’t compete. We connect.
And the person who benefits most? You.

How to Create a Culture of Uplift (Not Undercut)

This isn’t just about coaching. It’s about how we show up as women — in leadership, friendships, parenting, and partnership.

If you’re ready to move out of quiet comparison mode, here’s what that might look like:

• Giving credit freely and generously
• Referring others when they’re a better fit
• Celebrating other women’s wins without shrinking your own
• Taking responsibility without shame
• Speaking truthfully, kindly, and directly
• Choosing encouragement over envy

This isn’t about being perfect.
It’s about being awake.
It’s about being kind.
It’s about being you, without apology.

The Better Question: What’s Best for the Person I’m Here to Support?

That’s what real coaching is. That’s what real leadership is.
And that’s the heart of what we do at BetterYou.coach.

We don’t believe your success should come at the cost of someone else’s.
We believe that when one woman rises, we all do.
But it starts by creating the kind of space where rising is safe.

So here’s the better question:
What would shift for you if you no longer had to prove anything to anyone?

Because when you’re ready to stop competing and start healing — we’re ready to walk with you.

Ready for a Different Kind of Coaching Space?

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You don’t have to do it all alone.
We’re better — together.

Until next time…keep smiling,
Coach Joyce 😊

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